Embracing Your Imperfections
Hello beautiful people! Today, I’d like to share my reason for starting this blog. The overall aim is to inspire people through fashion and travel. Moreover, I am coming to understand that one’s fashion sense is fundamentally based on a person’s need to express his/herself in order to be ‘heard’ in this great big world of ours. And that we express ourselves for the purpose of engaging our world; which is where travel comes in. We were created as relational beings and that’s why we weren’t each born alone with a planet to ourselves. (Fun fact; there are more planets in the cosmos than there are people on earth. Relating is important…food for thought).
Inspiration often comes when we are freely expressing ourselves, when we express our personality and individuality in a liberal environment. Consequently, I would like to open up to you about a personal matter in this post, as difficult as it may be for me, because I feel it’s important that I’m open with certain things about myself in order to give you some insight to who I am. Now this was a pretty difficult decision for me to make as I’m quite a private person but I think some readers will be able to relate to my journey and hopefully gain some encouragement from it too, so here it goes!
Some of you may or may not know that I have a disability. I was born with just two fingers on my left hand and after having a series of surgeries as a baby, I finally had a toe transplanted from both feet to my hand leaving me with four toes on both feet and four fingers on my left hand. As I was still a baby, the surgery wasn’t all done at once. I had surgeries done till I was about 4 years old and I did a final one to enhance movement in my fingers at 18. Subsequently, I went for a lot of physiotherapy sessions to help with the movement of my fingers. The surgeries didn’t give me the grasp and movement I needed in order to hold things and use it as much as I use my right hand but the doctors did their best with the technology available and I am grateful for that. I may not be able to use it fully but I’m able to use it to support and balance things. As you would imagine, it wasn’t easy for me growing up as it had an effect on my confidence level and I always wondered why this had happened to me. However, as I got older, it mattered a lot less because I learned to live with it and even embrace it. Trust me, if I could, anyone else can.
Society often views people with disabilities as incompetent because of the struggles and difficulties they may go through or the limitations the disability may place on them. Although, over time I have come to find that people often respond to you the same way you express yourself to them. If you are confident about your disability they won’t be shy about it with you. If you ignore any awkwardness in association with it they will also respond to that energy and not be scared of relating to you normally in spite of it. Without embracing your disability it isn’t possible to give off the right energy to people you relate with.
When you embrace your disability
1. You automatically become a symbol of hope by inspiring others
You never know the lives you may be touching out there in the process. Having a disability may sometimes discourage you or make you think less of yourself. However, people can be empowered by hearing your success stories on overcoming your personal struggles with your disability. For example, in school or even at work, you can give people a reason to believe in themselves and to be proud of who they are, despite their situations. Sharing your success and hard times can have a huge impact on people. It could impact them so much so that even they too would begin to embrace their disability just from hearing about your experience.
2. You gain self-confidence
You take responsibility by owning yourself rather than spending your precious time comparing yourself to others. You begin to spend less time on self-pity or pity from others. You also realise that the more you embrace it, happiness and self-gratitude will grow in your life. Life’s too short to spend it in hiding or feeling ashamed. It takes so much energy to be affected by how people may see you. So why not live your life the way you should, by focusing on things that matter to you and functioning to your very best capacity. Free yourself and let loose. Embracing your disability or handicap, amputations, scars, sight issues or whatever it may be, can truly completely change the way you feel about yourself. The important thing is learning to love yourself so you can go out and in turn love other people. Don’t let anybody take that away from you. Let your disability instead be a trophy of success in your life.
3. You gain happiness
True acceptance leads to happiness and can pretty much be a replacement for any antidepressants. Personally, I believe this is one of the most important reasons to embrace your disability. Being happy is good for your mental and hence physical health. It’s also very liberating. You don’t want to feel down for the rest of your life, as this could have an effect on your mental health. When you finally learn to accept who you are, your level of happiness grows from what it was before.
The point I’m trying to make here is that having incomplete fingers has never stopped me from doing anything. Yes there have been times where I may be unable to lift things with my left hand, but I have my right hand, meaning there’s always a way out. There are some people that don’t even have hands or legs but it always amazes me how they survive and get on with life just like everyone else with complete bodies do. That alone is inspiring. No matter what your disability may be, don’t let it stop you from living your dream and fulfilling your purpose in life.
It’s a shame how society looks at things, maybe in society’s eyes you may not be perfect but just remember that in God’s eyes you are perfect and unique. If only you could see yourself as God sees you, you would understand that He values even the littlest things about you and can use your disability, handicap or situation to achieve greatness if you let him. All things, and I mean all things, are working together for your good. You are not a mistake, you are not defective, you perfect just the way you are.
I hope this post inspires someone out there to embrace their imperfections whatever they may be, whether it’s a physical disability or just something about yourself that embarrasses you or you don’t like or even some personal issues that you struggle with such as the way you look or your level of confidence or self-esteem. Embrace your imperfection and instead work to turn it to your advantage. A friend of mine once told me that I remind him of a mutant and I asked him why he said that. His response was ‘you’re unique and look perfect just the way you are. Never let anyone tell you otherwise’. Likewise, that is my message to you. Always remember that you are perfect in God’s eyes and you are loved so much by Him. Best believe that and let nobody tell you otherwise.
I would love to hear about how you’ve managed to embrace your imperfections or generally how you have dealt or are dealing with self-acceptance. Feel free to share your experiences in the comment box.